I was not so much surprised as deeply saddened to read this headline and report the other day.
Mark Bruce, 32, met 20-year-old Chloe Miazek at a bus stop in the early hours of the morning on November 3 last year after they had been on separate nights out in Aberdeen.
She died at his hands when he choked her after they were said to have discovered a mutual interest in erotic asphyxiation.
Miss Miazek, a Tesco worker from Kemnay, Aberdeenshire, had been drinking with friends in the city before being asked to leave a nightclub.
The High Court in Aberdeen heard that both had been drinking heavily and that she died in seconds after he seized her neck as they had sex in his city centre flat.
There’s more at the link.
When someone – male or female – has so little respect for their physical, mental and spiritual integrity that they will engage in extremely dangerous sexual practices with a stranger, without knowing anything about them . . . that’s tragic, but also symptomatic of so much that’s wrong with our society. There’s no sense of right or wrong any more, no sense of what may or may not be wise, or appropriate, or safe, or . . . whatever.
This woman may as well have thrown herself on the garbage dump outside town. That’s the value she placed on her life – her actions prove it. As for the man, he’s admitted culpable homicide (i.e. manslaughter, in US terms), but denied murder, because the erotic asphyxiation was consensual. The court agreed with him. The fact that he can eagerly look forward to strangling a stranger while engaged in intercourse marks him as, at the very least, mentally suspect, as far as I’m concerned. If that had been my daughter, I don’t know what I’d have done to him, even if she had consented to the act.
For so many people, sex is just “f***ing” now. There’s no sense of mystery, or love, or romance, or intimacy, at all. If it’s just physical, then obviously, anything goes, right?
I’m glad I’m not a young person today. The thought of dealing with such attitudes sends a cold chill down my spine. At least, when I grew up, we were taught some semblance of values and respect for others. Today? Not so much, it seems.